According to her memoir, despite her discovery, she still tried to work it out until her husband fell inlove with one of the men.
Rev. Lydia who is now the founder of "Beacon of Hope, Inc. Renaissance Learning Center", has also written a book, "The Gay Preacher’s Wife: How My Gay Husband Deconstructed My Life and Reconstructed My Faith" where she detailed what occurred in her marriage. Excerpts...........
"I was one of those preachers’ wives who sat in the pew on many a Sunday morning while my “real” life was a fraud. i discovered several years into my marriage that my husband was cheating on me–with men–numerous men. (And women too, I later found out). But I stayed. I stayed through the broken promises and the humiliation because I believed and hoped that things got better. I watched my husband stand in that pulpit on Sunday morning, preaching one message and living out yet another. I needed answers.
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The first place I turned to for answers were God. I prayed. I wept. I prayed. I wept. I prayed and I wept. God woke me at 3 a.m. I sat straight up in the middle of my bed. … What did Jesus really say about homosexuality? What was Jesus’ message about gays?
I prayed my entire young life for God to send me a husband–God Always answers my prayers–why did I end up marrying a gay man"?
According to what she told Rolling Out magazine,
“He left me for another man.He told me he wanted to live the rest of his life as a gay man. At that time, I didn’t know he was in a relationship with a man, a man that he’d fallen in love with. Most of the time when we were in therapy discussing his struggles with same-sex relationships, it was never a relationship; it was always [just] sex. This particular time it was very different. He had fallen in love with a man".